Episode 45: Men & Marriage, The Other Half of the Conversation

Episode 45 of the Mainspring Family Wellness Podcast is a riveting discussion around men and marriage with Quentin Hafner, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Newport Beach, and the particular challenges of a modern marriage from a male perspective.  The conversation touches upon the impact of a traditional male upbringing, cultural depictions of men, gender differences in communication styles, and the presence of shame in marriage and fatherhood.

 

Episode 45

Men & Marriage, The Other Half of the Conversation

 

02:29

[About Quentin Hafner, his personal life and his work as a licensed marriage and family therapist]

 

03:49

[Explanation on common challenges men face in marriages]

 

06:08

[Discussion on the generational evolution of what it means to be a husband]

 

10:28

[Discussion on the role of gender biases as it relates to a marriage]

 

12:51

[Discussion around communication styles and the difficulty men have connecting with spouses on an emotional level]

 

15:50

[Discussion on male archetypes present in communication styles]

 

17:14

[Discussion around distraction as a coping mechanism and the lack of emotional learning in childhood]

 

18:06

[Definition of the term “high-value husband”]

 

20:09

[More conversation around the gender divide within communication styles and how to work around those differences]

 

23:05

[Discussion on vulnerability as a conduit for connection and more productive conversations]

 

27:18

[Conversation around the presence of shame in men when it comes to parenting and relationships]

 

30:27

[Discussion on conversation dynamics and tools for effective communication]

 

32:16

[Conversation on how the culture of men is depicted in public arenas and the media]

 

37:05

[Conversation around the need to be more thoughtful about the current societal pressures of being a man]

 

39:43

[Promotion of Quentin’s subscription services for men, a therapy resource for men]

 

41:57

[Conversation close with Quentin]

 

42:34

[Summary of takeaways with Jenna & Kristen]

 

GUEST: Quentin Hafner

Quentin Hafner is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in Orange County, CA where he specializes in helping people find solutions to life's challenges that result in more personal & professional fulfillment. In particular, Quentin loves working with men in the context of couples therapy to help them discover their hidden potential to be better Dads & better Husbands.

In 2018, Quentin wrote and published an Amazon.com #1 best-selling marriage book Black Belt Husbands to help husbands solve challenges in their marriages.

Quentin is happily married and a father of two young boys, Levi & Samuel. In his spare time, he trains in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, loves to surf, go camping, and trail running in the most incredible nature preserves in Orange County.

 

Connect with Quentin Hafner:

Website: Quentin Hafner

Website: Black Belt Husbands

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Connect with Mainspring Family Wellness:

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Connect with Kristen & Jenna:

Kristen: LinkedIn

Jenna: LinkedIn